8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go by Jay Shetty

" 現代社会において愛と関係性について再考する必要がある人々にとって非常に有益な読み物です。特に、恋愛や結婚に興味のある人、自分自身や他人との関係性について深く考えたい人、人間関係の専門家や心理学者、カウンセラーなどが読むことをおすすめします。また、軽快でわかりやすいスタイルで書かれているため、読書が苦手な人でも楽しめると思います....." "...... As a man who was always told “ don’t cry” raised to not show emotion, or taught how to express what I’m feeling. Losing great women to my own pride, lack of communication or compassion. This book is helping me understand what I’m feeling and how to proceed, communicate and understand where she might be coming from instead of feeling attacked. Feeling less like a man because I’m showing emotion or being vulnerable. There is something amazing about being able to be that tough alpha male but also learning to take a step back and give my future partner what she needs on an emotional level....." " Ich bin echt begeistert wie locker das Buch geschrieben ist. Man fühlt sich nicht überrumpelt von den Ratschlägen und bekommt wirklich hilfreiche Vorschläge die man in den Alltag integrieren kann. Vor allem der Fokus darauf sich selbst lieben zu lernen und Zeit alleine zu genießen, gefällt mir sehr...."

이 작품의 가장 큰 장점은 문장이나 표현등이 난해하지 않고 읽기 쉽게 구성되어 있다는 것이다. '사랑'에 관한 이야기에 관심이 많은 독자라면 원서로 읽어보는것도 좋은 경험이될 것이다.

- What is difference between like and love? ....... When you like a flower, you pluck it. When you love a flower, you water it daily .....

- Greeks said there were seven basic types : Eros, which is sexual or passionate love, Philia, or friendship; Storge, or familial love; Agape, which is universal love; Ludus, which is casual or noncommittal love; Pragma, which is based on duty or other interests; and Philantia, which is self-love .....

- The oldest Hindu scriptures we studied are called the Vedas ....... I've used wisdom from the Vedas to form the concepts in this book .....

- The emotional isolation allowed me to develop and practice skills that are harder to access among the pleasures and pressures of a relationship ....

- ..... "Language has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word 'solitude' to express the glory of being alone." 

- The lens of solitude makes us open and curious. As such, solitude is the foundation on which we build our love.

- A survey showed that men are quicker to say "I love you" than women, taking an average of 88 days. A whopping 39 percent of them declare their love within the first month. Women take an average of 134 days, and 23 percent of them declare their love in month one .....

- How you handle your differences is more important than finding your similarities.

- Dreams are an illusion. Reality is far more interesting.

- Jeremy dean ..... says that typically we form our concepts of how others see us based on how we see ourselvesm which is inherently flawed. From the view inside our heads, we are the center of our own world and everything we experience is in some way related to us; psychologists call this egocentric bias.....

-.... Carol Dweck describes in her book MINDSET as when we see our qualities as fixed traits that can't be changed. When we're in the fixed mindset, we focus on the perception that we've been judged to be .....

- Stephen Covey ... 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE .... said, "Most people don't listen with the intent to understand ; they listen with the intent to reply."

- The reason we say knowledge is power is that it can help you overcome any fear of the unexpected. 

- ... Life is not spent ar the pinacle ....

- Productive arguments ..... we see the conflicts as a hurdle we want to overcome together, and we're open to recognizing each other's side of the story ....

- When you enter a discussion calmly, you can use language of request rather than complaint or accusation...

-If the only way for you to sustain the relationship is to pretend to be someone you're not, it's time to think about ending it.....

- We nurture intimacy in our relationships by learning and growing together ....

- There are no perfect words to tell someone the relationship is over. 

- The human brain is a meaning-making machine, and one of the most powerful ways it makes meaning is through story. When we ruminate about a breakup, part of what we're doing is searching for the story behind it and what we can learn from it ...... "Hearbeat creates such dramatic emotional pain ......

- ..... this story beautifully illustrates that we have different worth to different people. We are defined by what we accept ...

- if you have an intrusive thought, ask yourself, do I like this thought? Is this thought useful? Is this thought insightful? Is this thought helping me move forward? This is how we move from the mind's conversation to the intellect's conversation.

-Try to love someone for the spark in them, not what surrounds them.