BRAVING THE WILDERNESS by BRENE BROWN

일본 아마존에서 우연히 발견한 책인데 읽을 만하다. 책표지에서 모든 것을 말해주고 있다. True Belonging 에 관한 글인데 ... 작가의 개인적인 이야기는 나름 감동적이었다. 작가의 솔직함에 좀 놀라기도 했다. 이 책은 작가 자신의 이야기이고 작가 자신의 세상에 대한 이해의 노력이기도 하다. 사실 'Braving Wilderness' 는 'to be yourself, to be really true yourself' 가 되는 것과 나름 관련이 있는거 같다.  사실 어렵게 느껴지기도 할 수 있는 주제지만 작가가 나름 친절하게 이야기를 해주고 있는거 같다. 미국사회의 이야기가 많이 나오지만 사실 읽으면서 우리나라에 대해서 많이 생각하게 되었다. 'BRAVING' 은 Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Nonjudgement, Generosity 를 말한다.

 

- "Do not think you can be brave with your life and your work and never disappoint abyone. It doesn't work that way."

- Perspective is a function of experience.

- The price of assimilating and doing what was expected of me would have cost me too much ....

- I'm floating above my life, watching it and studying it, rather than living it.

- Don't study this moment. Be in it.

- Rarely do you have the gift of knowing you're inside a moment that will be part of what defines you. What do you do when you've spent the majority of your life moving to try to fit in ......

- Another important step in learning to belong to myself.

- I can confidently say that stories of pain and courage almost always include two things ; praying and cussing ....

- Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance.

- Being ourselves means sometimes having to find the courage to stand alone, totally alone.

-Once we belong thoroughly to ourselves and believe thoroughly in ourselves, true belonging is ours.

-Belonging so fully to yourself that you're willing to stand alone is a wilderness - an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching.

- True belonging doesn't require you to change who you are ; it requires you to be who you are.

- The transformative power of art is in this sharing. Without connection or collective engagement, what we hear is simply a caged song of sorrow and despair ......

- As fast as we're sorting ourselves, the people around us are hustling to sort us too .....

- At the same time sorting is on the rise, so is loneliness.

-Being alone or inhabiting solitude can be a powerful and healing thing.

- Sorting ourselves is the reason we've become lonelier ....

- Terrorism is most effective when we allow fear to take root in our culture.

- Maiese defines dehumanization as the psychological process of demonizing the enemy, making them seem less than human ........ 

- If you work with your mind, instead of trying to change everything on the outside, that's how your temper will cool down.

- The more we're willing to seek out moments of collective joy and show up for experiences of collective pain - for real, inperson, not online - the more difficult it becomes to deny our human connection, even with people we may disagree with. ......

- common enemy intimacy is counterfeit connection and the opposite of true belonging.

- When a group or community doesn't tolerate dissent and disagreement, it forgoes any experience of inextricable connection.

- When we come together under the false flag of common enemy intimacy, we amplify cynicism and diminish our collective worth.

-The foundation of courage is vulnerability - the ability to navigate uncertanity, risk, and emotional exposure ....

- When we let people take our vulnerability or fill us with their hate, we turn over our entire life to them.

- There will be times when standing alone feels too hard, too scary, and we'll doubt our ability to make our way through the uncertainty. ........