RISING STRONG by BRENE BROWN

한해를 마무리하면서 지금까지 미루어 두었던 책들을 읽고 있다. 이 책도 나름 진지하게 읽었지만 진도가 잘 나가지 않았던 책이다. 내자신이 가장 큰 문제지만 이 작가의 다른 작품들을 읽고 이 책을 읽는 것이 좀 더 좋지 않을까 싶었다. 적어도 "The Gifts of Imperfection" "Daring Greatly" 정도가 아닐까 싶다. 물론 작가는 나름 설명을 하지만 자꾸 신경이 쓰이고 이해하는데 어려움을 겪게 되었다. 물론 이런 책들을 읽고 실천하는것이 중요하지만 개인적으로 실천보다는 작가가 제시하는 다양한 정보등에 더 감동받는 경우가 많다. 작가가 말하는 다양한 이야기들을 제외하면 주제는 비교적 심플한 느낌이다. 일본판 표지가 이 책의 핵심을 잘 보여주고 있는거 같다 즉, 立て直す力( 다시 일으키다, 고쳐 세우다. 원래의 모습 상태로 돌리다 ...) 가 아닐까 싶다. 다시 한번 더 훑어 보아야 할 거 같다. 그리고 아마존에서 샘플보기를 통해서 대충 난이도를 확인하고 선택하시길 바란다. 독자에 따라서 어휘가 크게 어렵지 않아도 읽기에 편하지 않을 수도 있다. 핵심어는 reckon, rumble, integrate, story, vulnerable, strong, rise, grit 등이 아닐까 싶다. 

 

- In fact, we learned that whe faced with either - or dilemmas, the first question we should ask is, 'Who benefits by forcing people to choose ?'

- The most useful knowledge about human behavior is based on people's lived experiences.

- While vulnerability is the birthplace of many of the fulfilling experiences we long for - love, belonging, joy, creativity, and trust, to name a few - the process of regainging our emotional footing in the midst of struggle is where our courage is tested and our values are forged. Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives ; it's the process that teaches us the most about who we are.

- Embracing failure without acknowledging the real hurt and fear that it can cause, or the complex journey that underlies rising strong, is gold - plating grit.

- Good made the powerful point that there's a vast difference between how we think about the term failure and how we think about the people and organization brave enough to share their failures for the purpose of learning and growing.

- Rather than gold-plating grit and trying to make failure look fashionable, we'd be better off learning how to recognize the beauty in truth and tenacity.

- In addition to having people who are willing to show up and be seen, we also need a critical mass of badasses who are willing to dare, fall, feel their way through tough emotion, and rise again.

- We need to be selective about the feedback we let into our lives.

- Knowledge is only a rumor until it lives in the muscle. What we understand and learn about rising strong is only rumor until we live it and integrate it through some form of creativity so that it becomes part of us.

- The goal of this rising strong process is to rise from our falls, overcome our mistakes, and face hurt in a way that brings more wisdom and wholeheartedness.

- Mem and women who rise strong are willing and able to reckon with their emotions.....

- Men and women who rise strong are willing and able to rumble with their stories ..... The rumble is where wholeheartedness is cultivated and change begins.

- Rumbling with our story and owing our truth in order to write a new, more courageous ending transforms who we are and how engage with the world ....

- Mem and women who rise strong integrate the key learnings that emerge from the rising strong process into how they live, love, lead, parent, and participate as citizens.

- Steve Jobs believed that "creativity is just connecting things." He believed that creating was connecting the dots between the experiences we've had, to synthesize new things. He argued that this is only possible if we have more experiences or devote more time to thinking about our experience.

- Choosing to write our own story means getting uncomfortable ; it's choosing courage over comfort.

-Choosing to be curious is choosing to be vulnerable because it requires us to surrender to uncertanity. It wasn't always choice ; we were born curious. But over time, we learn that curiosity, like vulnerability, can lead to hurt .....

- Einstein said, "The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence." Curiosity's reason for existing is not simply to be a tool used in acquiring knowledge ; it reminds us that we're alive.

- Owning our stories means reckoning with our feelings and rumbling with our dark .......

- In a culture of scarcity and perfectionism, asking for help can be shaming if we're not raised to understand how seeking help is human and foundational to connection.

- Failure can become nourishment if we are willing to get curious, show up vulnerable and human, and put rising strong into practice.