The Power of Regret 후회의 재발견: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward by Daniel H. Pink 다니엘 핑크

"...... he delivers an entertaining and enlightening read. This book was enjoyable, informative, and practical...... Pink is a great distiller of evidence and storytelling and this book was based on much of his own research, which is remarkable. His narrative storytelling is wonderful and his conclusions are ones that will make you likely to reconsider what your relationship with regret is. I learned a lot from this and I think any person interested in the cognitive and social psychology of how we approach regrets will get much from this book......" "It is written like a novel where you are always looking ahead what’s next , book has tons of useful information and ideas how to implement for future benefit. I loved it and will never regret reading it. KEY theme is optimise when to regret and how to regret so that you gain in long term...."

 

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- The purpose of this book is to reclaim regret as an indispensable emotion - and to show you how to use its many strengths to make better decisions, perform better at work and school, and bring greater meaning to your life....

- ..... "to live, it seems, is to accumulate at least some regrets." 

- .... regret doesn't just make us human. It also makes us better.

- .... REGRET is the quintessential upward counterfactual - the ultimate IF ONLY.

- When feeling is for thinking, and thinking is for doing, regret is for making us better.

- foundation regrets, boldness regrets, moral regrets, connection regrets

- The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second-best time is today. from Chinese proverb

- What distinguishes regret from disappointment is personal responsibility. Disappointments exist outside of your control..... Regrets, in contrast, are your fault .....

- People who suppressed their identities talked about denying themselves the potential to live fully.

- in The RIGHTEOUS MIND .... when we consider  what's moral, we have an instaneous, visceral, emotional response about right or wrong - and then we use reason to justify that intuition. 

- If we know what people regret the most, we can reverse that image to reveal what they value the most.

-When a discrepancy persists between who we are and who we could or should be, unpleasant feelings flood the gap.

- Looking backward can move us forward, but only if we do it right. The sequence of self-disclosure, self-compassion, and self-distancing offers a simple yet systematic way to transform regret  into a powerfil force for stability, achievement, and purpose.

- If our lives are the stories we tell ourselves, regret reminds us that we have a dual role. We are both the authors and the actors. We can shape the plot but not fully. We can toss aside the script but not always. We live at the intersection of free will and circumstances. 

- Regret offersus the ultimate redemption narrative. It is as powerful and affirmingas any positive emotion. But it arrives on our doorstep wearing a disguise.